Fellow Traveller,
Bless your Heart.
Much Blessings.
Some statistic.
According to WHO, World Health Organization,
Around 1.000.000 people die from suicide each year.
It is predicted that by 2020,
The rate of death will increase to 1 every 20 second,
If we pay no more attention to mental development,
If we continue our pattern of valuing materiality over mentality.
Now, it become the 3rd leading causes of death
Among those aged 15-44.
Suicide attempts are 20 times more frequent than completed suicide.
We can measure a society more precisely,
not by seeing its splendour, but by visiting its slum,
By paying attention to their lowest side.
Healthy development will always increase even the lowest point.
Suicide,
Majorly caused by how one’s mind behave.
Some of it can be easily prevented,
Freeing one from such painful inner torture,
And freeing lots other from the pangs of great regret.
We already perceive by ourselves,
How,
The inner torture of depression,
Could easily lead even the toughest person,
Brought to the knee over period of time,
And suicidal thought can easily arise afterward.
Especially if one consume intoxicant, and
wasted their sexual energy.
So, may you will not look down this condition.
But also,
We perceive how Great are,
Protective Knowledge,
The Education of Heart.
Even a single healing sentence,
Or a simple practice of certain method of meditation,
Could prevent and annihilate one’s intention to suicide.
Of course,
there are no quick fix for anything.
Hope, Faith, is the power to support one’s life,
Those both help one to persevere,
Until the Knowledge arise.
Suicide is a highly preventable event,
The shame and stigma that surround it,
Cause society tend to mystify it,
Causing more and more preventable death to happen.
May you willing to help us spread our messages,
For most of them are designed,
To accompany human hearts,
To prevent suicidal thought,
For now, or future condition.
Some of our messages,
Even seem irrelevant for reader in good condition,
But when the calamity approach,
And one fall into the deep darkness of depression,
The potential for those messages to show its illuminative power,
Will be known.
One sentence,
May save million, million of life,
O, Blessed Beings.
Males are 4 times more likely to die in suicide,
However females are more likely to do the attempt than males.
30% Suicide case in worldwide happen in India and China.
Japan, has the suicide rate higher than Germany.
Suicide is very harmful because,
To gain that grave ability to harm oneself,
The dearest being to one,
Mind exert tremendous effort.
This grave self-destruct pattern of effort,
Will leave it footprint in the mind-continuum of a being,
Along their journey in cycle of rebirth.
Causing more future suicide to happen.
Those who have habit to enjoy killing other beings, even smallest animal,
Also can develop suicidal thought overtime,
Because of the interdependency of life-destroying tendency,
And the concept that death, killing is an option of problem solving.
Then,
If you want to be able to prevent suicide to happen,
Even in a stranger,
If you can develop just one quality,
It will tremendously transform other’s life.
Silent compassion.
Most of the time,
We try too hard in giving advice and solving other problem,
With our extremely limited knowledge about cognitive process,
How mind really work,
Especially in the 99% part of most people mind,
The subconscious part.
Those “premature life-coach” behaviour easily cause backfiring,
Or even trigger faster downspiral of depression,
Or even the suicidal thought itself.
One should never said to the sufferer that,
Don’t you know that I have the best intention to help you?
for,
sufferer of depression and suicidal thought are in great pain,
they are not experiencing blindness, idiocy, or amnesia.
Those who learn 24 Paccayaniddesa,
The beginning part of Patthana,
7th book of Abhidhamma,
Will understand more about the complexity of mind and matter interaction,
Which can help one,
Quite easily lead a sufferer out from the maze of their mind.
Those who learn Patthana,
Will able to understand that,
The mental factor, cetasika,
Able to influencing each other, especially the Manasikara,
attention, generator of Perspective.
So,
When one experience grave mental pain,
The dosa hetu, root of anger,
And domanassa vedana,
The painful feeling,
Able to distort manasikara, attention, perspective,
narrow it and bend it direction.
Which cause, even the seemingly harmless sentence,
Be unintentionally interpreted as an accusation,
Blame, judgement, and attack.
Those who deal with suicidal people or suicidal thought,
Need to understand a seemingly paradoxical truth.
“Suicidal individuals, deep down, desperately want to stay alive.”
They are just unable to see alternatives to their problems.
That explain,
Why the cure of suicidal thought,
Is as simple as,
“Proper Shift of Perspective”
We find an extremely effective method,
That can almost always work in long term.
The best of course,
Healing Kindness and Transformative Knowledge.
But,
It’s rare among human nowadays.
So,
For those who has not enough wisdom to transform the sufferer mind,
There is even a more applicable way,
Silent Compassion.
Learn,
Re-learn, how to stay and accompany the sufferer,
In a silent compassion,
Not much word needed,
Understand that,
Your supportive presence is what matter the most.
Not your advice.
Even if the sufferer maybe feel its unuseful,
But over period of time,
Transformation,
The alleviation of pain in their mind,
While accompanied even an hour a day,
By a person that able to practice silent compassion,
Will be obvious, yet felt unexplainable,
It works in subconscious level.
What is silent compassion?
Silent prayer like this:
“May I, may you, may all beings,
In the entire universe,
be without suffering.”
Also,
those who experience depression or the caregiver,
will sooner or later come into contact,
with the realization that,
Humility is never a weakness,
it’s the key holder of Powers.
Humility,
Master of Power.
Know-it-all people are more likely unable to heal from any mental illness,
or giving proper care.
only those who keep in mind,
”It’s almost impossible for most human,
to be able to understand the feeling,
that they never experience yet.”
”Even though,
I may or may not know how to help you,
I will again and again,
allow myself to be open to any beneficial possibilities for your healing”.
will miraculously transcend,
all problems.
One should not be too proud with their logic, for
most of Greatest Achievements,
transcend, defy logic.
Nature’s Law work in higher level of Intelligence,
learnable and nothing mysterious, it’s
simply far beyond the range of untrained mind’s logic.
We pass through our darkest moment, by,
stick tightly to Prayer toward Goal, and
after learning about the power of Silent Compassion,
teach and instruct people around us,
that wanting to help us yet know not how,
and,
it still work.
Have Faith in Kindness,
O, Blessed Beings.
Much Blessings,
You have all our support and blessings,
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